In my studies and practice, I have found that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy. As a result, I have found that utilizing aspects from multiple different theories and continuing to explore and expand my own awareness of unique practices has served me well. At its base, an MFT utilizes Systems Theory and its premise that we are all shaped by numerous influences in our lives that have formed us and continue to impact our lives. I appreciate and utilize aspects of The Gottman Approach, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) within my practice. I could create a thorough list of different theories that have influenced me, but it feels more applicable to describe my mindset when working with clients. (Please feel free to ask me for more specifics, should that be important to you.)
My approach with couples and individuals tends to be very similar, with a heavy focus on open communication with loved ones and self-acceptance as the keys to shifting unwanted patterns. I rely very heavily on my intuition and feedback from my clients as to what feels right to them, as they know themselves better than I ever will. I do not view my role as in any way superior or more knowledgeable; I am simply here to help ease the way through self-exploration and the application of the tools that I can offer. That being said, I am very honest and direct, and I will not hesitate to challenge you (gently and with warning!) should I feel it is warranted. I am a real, whole person in the therapy room, and I think that connecting with each other is the most important aspect of allowing for the safety and freedom to change.